Want to win, Stop Caring!

As I write this post, some personal experiences with people in my past life are running in my mind and I can’t help but stop and notice how those people were so successful in whatever they were doing. Be it their professional life or personal, business or job, relationship or just having fun, I can’t help but recognize a subtle and common charm in all of them, whatever they do. So what’s the rub here? They are all good people, successful, some self made and some enjoying the pedigree (you still have to be good enough to do that) but what makes them so?

NOT CARING – is the answer I got. Not caring about the results, about the outcome whether it’s going to be in your favour or not. Not caring about failures. Because the only thing those successful people are concerned with is – Winning. They don’t mind losing in order to win. They hate losing, but they don’t fear losing - which is a big differentiator. Experience makes you learn and lose, don’t take it to heart. A Punjabi phrase I learnt quite early on in my life from one such man is – “Parwaah Ni Karni”. These three words essentially mean that do what you like, be fearless, follow your heart and don’t care about anything else, be it people (saying things about you which don’t matter anyways), failures (make you ready for the next win) and even the result of what you are doing.

Let’s take a little example at this point. Say you are a Porsche enthusiast. You really, badly want a Porsche Carrere GT you would drive all over the city and make people crazy. Now if you are working to get it, every night you think of whether the other day you will be able to lay your hands on it, drive it, own it. But would it be the same case if you already owned the same Porsche. Would you think every night after parking it in your home whether you will be able to enjoy it the next day or not. Simply no, because you know it’s yours. You will be able to enjoy it as long as you want it. You don’t burden yourself then with unnecessary doubts and questions.

So if there are two rules I want to end this post on those are -

1.  ACT AS IF

Act as if you already own what you want, you already are what you want to be, you already have what you think should be yours. Acting in this way only will take you closer to where you belong and desire to be, to get the things which you want to attract into your life.

As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or you can’t, either way you are right”!

2. BURY THE FEAR

Stop Caring about the result, about the humiliation, about the defeat because it’s not worth it, act to win. As you win, all the negativities, the criticisms, the bitter people fade away and what is left is just the happiness and excitement of winning and the company of people who stood by you to enjoy your success with. Always make the Excitement of Winning take over the Fear of Losing. 

To say it in business terms, learn to be a great Salesman. Learn to sell ice to an Eskimo. Learn to sell what you have in order to get what you want. Learning to Sell is one of the biggest contributions you can make to yourself – professionally as well as personally – because it gives a new perspective to achieving things without caring.

These things helped people successfully achieve what they wanted and they still keep doing it, I am learning the same ropes and results do show themselves. Hope you gain some benefit out of it too. Customize it, and make it work for yourself in whatever way you want, just go out and – WIN.